Handing a device to your child is a major milestone, and it’s arriving earlier than ever. Recent data from the OECD indicates that roughly 70% of 10-year-olds now own their own smartphone.
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As a result, a ton of questions come up. How will they use it? Will you be able to control screen time? Content? All of this can become overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. With a bit of preparation and communication, you can let your child experience technology and build healthy digital habits without you having to stress about it.
Start with clear expectations
Before your child powers on their new device, talk about how it will be used. Explain when screen time is appropriate, what types of apps are allowed, and why online activity matters just as much as behavior in real life.
Children are more likely to follow rules when they understand the reasoning behind them. Don’t make a list of everything they shouldn’t do. Instead, create a list of simple guidelines written in age-appropriate language. Update it as they grow.
Set up the device together
Enable built-in safety features
Today’s smart devices have safety features built into them that help parents manage screen time, app downloads, and content filters.
Spend some time learning about them and setting them up before you hand the device over, to give yourself a safer starting point. It’s also a good idea to look at family safety features that let you monitor activity while giving children age-appropriate independence.
Keep software updated
Remind your children to update the software regularly to ensure it has the latest security fixes and vulnerability patches. Teaching them about the importance of regular updates is another layer of good online hygiene that will improve their digital safety.
Teach them how to be safe early
Make sure your children know that not everyone behind the other screen is who they claim to be. Teach them to be wary, ask questions, and stay safe online. Talk about things like:
- How to set up strong passwords, create passphrases, and use password managers.
- Why it’s important to keep personal information private and away from social platforms.
- Recognizing scams, fake news, and spoofed websites promoting offers for giveaways of V-Bucks or any other video game currency.
- Going to a trusted adult to ask for help if needed.
These conversations don’t have to happen all at once. Short, regular discussions often have a greater impact than one long lecture.
Make privacy part of everyday use
Families who travel frequently should make privacy settings a priority. Public Wi-Fi is notoriously vulnerable to ‘Man-in-the-Middle’ attacks via unsecured hotspots (Common in hotels and airports).
To mitigate this, consider using a VPN. By routing internet traffic through secure servers (for example, using a Canadian VPN server while abroad), you add a vital layer of encryption. This ensures that even if a bad actor intercepts your child’s connection, the data remains unreadable and their location stays masked.
Note: Privacy tools are for everyone. A recent study found that 81% of children who use a VPN report that it makes them feel safer online.
Create healthy digital habits
Balance screen time with offline activities
Technology works best when it’s part of a balanced life. Schedule time for outdoor play, reading, hobbies, and family activities.
Rather than focusing only on daily limits, pay attention to how your child uses their device. Educational apps, creative projects, and video calls with relatives are different from endless scrolling or “brainrot” content.
Lead by example
Children imitate what they see. If parents leave their phones off the dinner table, don’t pick up their phones the second they hear a notification sound, and limit their screen time, the kids are likely to follow that example and do the same.
Showing a real-life example of good digital behavior is more effective than enforcing rules.
Keep the conversation going
You’re not giving your kid a device once and taking it away. You’re giving them the link to the online world. The relationship they build with it is one that will likely last well into their adult life. It’s important to define clear expectations, safety features, and teach them good digital habits. That’s how they will use the devices responsibly, safely, and confidently.
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Angela Kuzmanoska – SEO content writer with 10+ years of experience covering tech, cybersecurity, eCommerce, and more. Mom, gamer, traveler, & hiker.