When is the right time to see a therapist?
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It’s a sad fact of life that so many people look down on therapy or the people who have it. The reality is that a quarter of the planet has some sort of mentally related issue during their lives.
It’s important to not see ourselves as failures or weak if we feel we need some extra help. In what circumstances should one seek help from a therapist rather than just a friend or family member? That’s what this article is all about.
Feeling of disconnection and dominating issues
Thanks to social media, people are more connected than ever before, and yet they have never felt so disconnected. When thinking about consulting a psychologist, it is helpful to learn from the experts that there are tools one can use to make social media a more connecting experience. It is also interesting to learn that therapists can be licensed and qualified and that this process will involve training in specialist areas that can help you specifically.
If one part of a person’s life is affecting everything adversely, it needs to be addressed and rectified. Something may have happened in the past, such as in childhood or whilst in a relationship.
There may be secrets that have not been told to anyone, and feelings of guilt and shame. People are often too embarrassed to discuss them with anyone, but these issues can be crippling to one’s emotional and physical health. When someone seeks professional help, they no longer feel alone or misunderstood.
Other people notice
Sometimes we are on such a treadmill that we don’t have the time or energy to stand back from ourselves and think about our lives. We may be unaware that everything we say is negative or full of hopelessness. People notice these things, however, just as they notice when their friends become suddenly withdrawn or constantly tired. We may be demonstrating several symptoms of depression, but need someone else to point it out and encourage us to take action.
Anger of grief
Issues from the past can leave people feeling angry. They may feel violated or betrayed or feel there has been an injustice. This can make people very volatile, and anger can come out unexpectedly. Such people may massively overreact to things, or become violent when drunk. People don’t always understand their reactions, so it may take a professional to explain them.
Other people experience the heartbreaking situation of bereavement. It might be of a special friend or a close family member such as a spouse or child. If the issue is not dealt with, it can fester inside.
Addictions, phobias and suicidal feeling
Whether it is gambling or drugs, it can often require professional help to change someone. If they have an addictive personality this must be dealt with rather than just treating the symptoms. Therapists can provide tools to overcome temptations. They can also refer people for medical help.
There are many phobias that people can have, and they can be debilitating. Therapists help people understand their fears and assist to overcome them. This can be by exposing them to their fears a little at a time.
Sometimes a difficult past can stop someone from being able to dream about the future. They lose hope and even consider ending it all. People who feel suicidal may look at painkillers or sleeping tablets, and consider taking an overdose.
We all struggle with relationships at some time or another, but for some, this can become acute. Relationship breakups, including divorce, can rip people in two inside. Couples counseling is just one aspect of therapy that can help relationships be restored.
No matter how perfect someone’s parenting skills are, issues can still arise with children. Kids go through their battles, and adults are not always equipped with the skills or understanding to help.
When therapy has ‘failed’
Sometimes people say ‘I tried it, but it didn’t work’. The fact is, some people don’t persist or aren’t patient enough with the process. The therapist has to learn about their client so they can help, and treatment takes time. There’s nothing to stop someone changing therapists if they want, however, or asking for a different strategy to be applied. For instance, some people may be learning about mindfulness who would benefit more from speaking to their inner child.
We are created in an amazing way, and therapists are here to help us understand ourselves and receive tools to overcome the obstacles. We can lose feelings of inferiority and hopelessness and feel more connected. We can live through grief and loss. Anger can be dealt with, addictions be broken and relationships enhanced. Perhaps now is the right time for help.