How to make sure your daughter has the perfect wedding day?
One of the most exciting seasons of life for many parents is when your daughter becomes engaged to be married. Here are five tips to keep in mind when helping your daughter pull off the wedding of her dreams.
Arrange the finances
Once you have offered up your congratulations and celebrated the special news, it is time to start the planning process. The first thing that needs to be discussed is the finances. Although this may be an awkward conversation to have, it is vital that you have these discussions before your daughter jumps into the planning. A budget is crucial in guiding the wedding planning so that you know how much you can afford in each area. In addition to setting an overall budget, you also need to discuss how much you are willing to pay for and how much the couple will need to chip in to pay for the event. Be sure to also consider events such as the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon. Having this serious discussion early with your daughter will help to prevent more difficult conversations later down the road.
Pick a date
Once you have a rough idea of your budget, you can begin looking at dates. You can be a valuable resource as you help your daughter pick the date that will work the best for your family. This is also a good time to consider the size of the wedding that she wishes to have. Does she want to have a traditional wedding in your hometown or do you all want to plan a destination with a smaller guest base? While your daughter and her fiance should be the ones to make the final decision, you can offer your input based on the preferences of your family.
Discuss the vision
Now that you have a budget and a date in mind, the fun can really begin. This where all of the dreams for the wedding come to life. Be sure to sit down with your daughter and help her to verbalize her vision for what she wants her big day to look like. Does she want a formal affair or does she see herself barefoot on the beach as she exchanges her vows? While all of the big ideas need to come from her, you can offer input and help her to bring her vision to fruition. After the vision and theme are established, you can start planning the more detailed aspects of the wedding such as the catering menu, the ceremony vows, the music, and the flowers and decorations.
Pay attention to the details
While it is understandable to put all of the focus on the bride’s wedding dress, it is often the accessories that bring the entire look together. For this reason, it is important that you encourage your daughter to pay attention to the little details of her wedding day attire. Specific details to emphasize include bridal jewelry, shoes, and hairpieces. The accessories should bring out the best parts of the dress and serve as a complement to the entire look that your daughter is trying to create.
Remember that this is her day
While it may be tempting to insert your own personal opinions and preferences into the planning process of your daughter’s wedding day, it is more important that you let her guide all of the decisions. This is her day and should be treated as such. Your daughter will appreciate it if you do not try to live vicariously through her. Your role in this milestone is to provide support and encouragement, only offering up your opinion when asked. Along this same vein, be sure that your wedding attire does not upstage her. Instead, you want to choose something tasteful and modest that will not make you the center of attention. Your daughter needs to be the star of her wedding day and your job is to simply let her shine.
This is a meaningful time in the life of your family and should be treasured. With the right planning and execution, you can create amazing memories for your daughter, her new spouse, and your entire family.