6 ways to be there for your family during hard times.
There is no family that hasn’t been through some really rough patches. Actually, each time any family member is going through a difficult time, the whole family is affected, but it’s also the time for all of them to show their support. This support comes in various forms and every little help, as they say. That’s why we’ve come up with the following list of ways to be there for your family during hard times. Take a look at it and remember the tips next time someone in your family is experiencing problems.
Lend your ear
Talking about problems makes a person share that burden with someone and all of a sudden that burden is no longer so heavy. So, when a family member is facing challenges, you should offer to listen to them. However, you need to be careful how you go about it. You need to know your barriers. You’re there for a family member, not the other way round. Don’t turn it into you talking about your problems and personal experiences. Next, avoid giving them false hope and insisting that everything will be alright soon. Instead, show compassion and try to understand how that person is feeling. Allow them enough time to explain things, especially if they’re upset. Don’t offer unsolicited advice immediately, but make sure you’re very familiar with the situation before you offer your two cents.
Help them find solutions
If a family member asks for your help, you need to respond. They might feel reluctant to do so, but if you get an impression they are hesitating to ask for help, offer it yourself. Depending on the problem, you might sacrifice your time to help them find the right kind of professional help and/or counseling or drive them there. Alternatively, you might be required to find financial solutions for them if they’re experiencing money issues. In any case, it’s important your family member realizes you’re there for them and that they can rely on you to try to find practical solutions to whatever problem they’re facing.
Find the right help
You may easily find yourself in a position where you’re required to find the right kind of help and you have to be ready to live up to the challenge. Whether it’s related to the course of action or identifying the right expert, who can provide the necessary help, you simply have to be there for your family member. So, allocate some of your time to find the best among medical professionals, psychiatrists or reputable superannuation lawyers, in case your family member can’t work due to injury or illness. If you can’t help directly, refer the person facing challenges to those who can and you’ll have helped them a lot.
Remember that the youngest or elderly family members look up to adults in their family for guidance and help in times of trouble. You have to be ready to take that responsibility and set the tone of the response to crisis, as well as help each family member find a way to help weather the storm. Of course, that doesn’t mean you should do all the work. On the contrary, each family member needs to take a role in dealing with the difficult situation. Difficult situations are also the time when possible individual differences should be set aside until the crisis is over. Work together to get through it and you’ll see how family bonds strengthen. Basically, a crisis is the best time to be united with your family.
Pay special attention to children
Children can’t and shouldn’t be completely protected from a crisis their family is going through. However, they need to understand that such situations are inevitable and that they too will one day be adults dealing with problems. That’s why you should set a great example to them, while at the same time trying not to burden them more than necessary. So, make sure they keep as much of their routine as possible. Spend time with them playing or exercising and, by all means, talk as much as possible. The better they understand the situation, the better equipped they’ll be to cope with it.
You should always try to find something positive to focus on and try to help your family members do the same. This is a good way of preventing them from feeling overwhelmed by the situation. Identify real positives and do what you can to highlight and enhance them. Insist that no matter what you’re currently going through and how it may end, you’ll always have each other. That will help everyone feel much more confident and positive about everything.
Tough times are moments when families need to get closer than ever, in order to find comfort and friends in each other. We’ve all been in situations when we either needed help or were those providing it. The fact that our family is affected only increases the need for us to step up and react appropriately.